marriage counseling

By Dr. Paul Hokemeyer I suck at this.” The ‘this’ Tom was referring to were the boundaries he’d attempted to put around his emotional well-being and his narcissistic husband’s emotional and financial manipulation of him over the course of their 20-year relationship. “Every time I tell him he...

In this article by Stephanie Booth for Cafemom.com's The Stir, Dr. Paul explains the dynamics of passive aggressive behavior and how to manage it in your relationship. The full article can be found below: You're annoyed at your partner so you accidentally "forget" to tell him...

In this article on things you need to know about marriage therapy, Dr. Paul joined a distinguished panel of his colleagues by being named as one of America's top marriage therapists. To read the entire article, click on the link below: http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/g2312/what-marriage-therapists-want-you-to-know/?    ...

In the following article that I wrote for Rehabs.com, I discuss the phenomenon of sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity: “I don’t know how it got this far out of control,” Matt practically whispered during our first session. “It all started so innocently. I went on Ashley Madison...

What is a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is any relationship we have with another person that makes us feel drained, anxious or less then. Instead of building us up and making us feel good about ourselves, these relationships break us down in subtle and not...

In today's Style section of the New York Times, Elissa Gootman penned a great article on how to negotiate relationships with step children in a divorce. I'm honored that she closed the article on a positive, up beat note that contained my discussion of how...

This posting by Dr. Paul Hokemeyer first appeared on the Dr. Oz website By Paul Hokemeyer, PhD, JD I just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey. For most of you, the book needs no introduction. It’s a hot and steamy novel that’s been a topic of...