abusive relationships

By Dr. Paul Hokemeyer I suck at this.” The ‘this’ Tom was referring to were the boundaries he’d attempted to put around his emotional well-being and his narcissistic husband’s emotional and financial manipulation of him over the course of their 20-year relationship. “Every time I tell him he...

In this article by Stephanie Booth for Cafemom.com's The Stir, Dr. Paul explains the dynamics of passive aggressive behavior and how to manage it in your relationship. The full article can be found below: You're annoyed at your partner so you accidentally "forget" to tell him...

This article first appeared in Bustle.com and was written by Bibi Deitz. In it, I discuss ten signs that indicate your relationship could be over. _______ If your partner is always exhausted, angry and rolling their eyes, there's a good chance they have given up on your...

In the following article that I wrote for Rehabs.com, I discuss the phenomenon of sexual addiction and sexual compulsivity: “I don’t know how it got this far out of control,” Matt practically whispered during our first session. “It all started so innocently. I went on Ashley Madison...

What is a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is any relationship we have with another person that makes us feel drained, anxious or less then. Instead of building us up and making us feel good about ourselves, these relationships break us down in subtle and not...