Dr. Paul Hokemeyer (pronounced Hoke-a-Meyer), J.D., Ph.D. is based in Los Angeles, New York City, and Telluride, CO where he maintains a private clinical practice and serves as the Senior Clinical Fellow at Caron Ocean Drive. A licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, he is a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists and a certified Clinical Trauma Professional.

In addition to holding a PhD in Psychology and being a certified Clinical Trauma Professional, Dr. Hokemeyer holds a doctorate in law and worked as corporate attorney prior to becoming a clinician. His academic and clinical research, in which he explores the topics of success, power, celebrity and wealth has been published by Lambert Academic Press, The Journal of Wealth Management, Private Wealth, Addiction Professional, Family Therapy Magazine, and the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Dr. Hokemeyer has become known as “America’s Marriage and Family Therapist” for his on-air, on-line and print media work on the Dr. Oz Show, Good Morning America, FOX News, CNN, the Today Show, Katie, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News and World Report, Market Watch, WebMD, Men’s Health, Women’s Day, YahooShine, Cosmopolitan, and others. He is also a FOX News Analyst.




Dr. Hokemeyer has extensive experience in successfully treating the following addictive, identity, adjustment and personality disorders:

  • Substance abuse including alcoholism, prescription drug dependence, and opiate addiction.
  • Infidelity including Internet infidelity and emotional infidelity.
  • Sexual issues including those relating to BDSM, sexual orientation, sexual anorexia, and sexual compulsivity.
  • Male Eating Disorders including bulimia and binge eating.
  • Sudden Wealth Syndrome including issues relating to celebrity, power and success.
  • Bereavement issues including loss of a parent, professional disruption, life transitions and divorce.
  • Self-Betrayal including co-dependency, toxic attachment and underachievement.





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Celebrity Mental Health
Celebrity Addictions
Celebrity Relationships
Celebrity Dysfunction
Behavioral Addictions


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Passive Agressive Behavior: How to manage it in your relationship.

In this article by Stephanie Booth for Cafemom.com's The Stir, Dr. Paul explains the dynamics of passive aggressive behavior and how to manage it in your relationship. The full article can be found below: You're annoyed at your partner so you accidentally "forget" to tell him the start time of his soccer game changed. Or maybe the last time he got upset with you, he quietly ignored that broken step on your stairs -- for MONTHS. On the face of it, you're not fighting and neither of you has necessarily done anything "wrong." But this is passive-aggressive behavior on both counts, FYI. And it ain't good. "Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of responding to internal and external conflict indirectly," explains Paul Hokemeyer, JD, PhD, a licensed marriage and family therapist who works out of New York City, Los Angeles, and Telluride, Colorado. Instead of owning your emotions -- no matter

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Video Games and Young Boys’ Brains

In this article for Time.com, health reporter Alexandra Sifferlin discusses important new findings that show how video games impact young boys' brains in ways that cause them to objectify women. #greatreporting. HEALTH RESEARCH Here’s What Sexist Video Games Do to Boys’ Brains Alexandra Sifferlin @acsifferlin April 13, 2016 Playing sexist video games can reduce empathy toward female violence victims, a new study suggests It can be easy to objectify women in some popular video games. In some games, you can even have your character pay a woman for sex and then kill her, if you are so inclined. Now, a new study out Wednesday reports that boys who play the kind of games where “women are secondary characters … who are used as sexual objects by players” show diminished empathy toward female victims. The new study, published in the journal PLOS ONE, randomly assigned 154 male and female high schoolers

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Dr. Paul named one of America’s Top Marriage Therapists by Women’s Day

In this article on things you need to know about marriage therapy, Dr. Paul joined a distinguished panel of his colleagues by being named as one of America's top marriage therapists. To read the entire article, click on the link below: http://www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/g2312/what-marriage-therapists-want-you-to-know/?  

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